Meditation – The complexity of relationship

01/29/2023

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okay welcome everyone lovely to see you

so if we can just rest

as presence

to be not knowing

notice the breath

invite the mind to rest by simply allowing your experience to be whatever it is

without giving it any direction

presence is effortless

and it doesn’t matter what appears to you

because whatever appears to you doesn’t affect you in any way except if you choose for it to affect you

because you are the totality

you are not a particular 4:58 entity

except if you choose yourself to be a particular entity

because your reality is the infinite Invisible Presence

your freedom of being

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you are not a body mind you’re not a male or a female form

you are this effortless aware presence

which is your reality and whenever you leave it to become somebody that exists in time and space it is out of fear Freedom that you are doing so

because you are not a victim of the universe

you are the universe itself universing

you are the Consciousness the reality

of whatever appears to you

irrespective of whether anything appears to you or not that does not matter

relationship is an expression of love

it is not a place

where you

maneuver your way to get somewhere or to get something

like the sunshine shines unto the universe without any personal intention it is simply the nature of the sun to shine

like it is the nature of the surface of the pond to reflect the sunshine or the moon the moonlight

similarly in this dream of wakefulness and

what we call life

10:02 relationship is a place where we manifest and express the love

and it’s a place of opportunity where we can learn about ourselves

about how we sometimes resist

sometimes we argue

on behalf of whom

we argue on behalf of the imaginary me

which has no reality outside of your belief in it

but of what good is your belief in this imaginary me

which leads you to argumentation

worry and concern

is it possible to live in a relationship without a personal agenda

without defending our point of view

which traps us and limits us

is it possible to listen

listen without judgment

without defending ourselves without attacking

because the other is your very self

there is no other outside of the intimacy of relationship

and in the intimacy of relationship the other is your very self

sometimes in the relationship we use the other as a punching bag

dumb power frustrations

or to the other which comes right back unto us

while it is available to us to be open

to understand something about ourselves about truth

in relationship to understand something about love 15:04 about freedom

about pain about sorrow about hurt

the sense of loss

oftentimes we use the other in relationship

we use them to make us happy we expect them to behave in certain ways

we place conditions

we’re unaware how painful it is for both

for everyone involved

and yet we are so happy when there is an expression of love and kindness towards us

we love that touches our heart

can we also do the same can we also be a conduit

express the love that we love to receive to express it

to relax our conditions relax our expectations

trust the love the expression of love and kindness in this moment

not to be so preoccupied with our agendas not to be so judgmental

because we don’t know what the other one is experiencing what they’re perceiving what they’re sensing we don’t know

there is vulnerability in love

soft it’s available to experience whatever the universe is presenting

you know the entire non-dual teaching can be 20:01 summed up in the word love

because love is truth and truth is beauty

there is freedom all the Divine principles are present in love

love is not personal it’s Universal

when we are that Universal love

when you assume yourself to be a separate person a limited personal self your mind is deeply confused

we are not going anywhere as body minds

it’s not about the future

but about living each moment this moment and every moment out of loving kindness and intelligence and wisdom

whichever way we can

but to be interested

in the expression of kindness and love

impersonal expression

to explore that direction