Meditation – How to deal with negative feelings?
03/19/2023
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hello everyone
so to start if we could just welcome ourselves as this simple presence
all right
nothing special that you need to do
whatever is past is passed you don’t need to do anything about it for now
every moment is afresh brand new
nothing that you need to hold on to
so that you can meet this moment in your complete innocence
without the need to know anything about it
without needing some supporting structure
5:05 because you don’t need any support you don’t need any identity you don’t need to maintain anything in this moment
what you did and what others did to you are empty Tales traces in the sand along the shore which fade away
you never swim in the same water twice it’s always fresh and new
you don’t need to figure anything out to fix anything as you sink deeper and deeper into being into presence
because as presence we are not separate
we’re the same the same beingness
when it is this understanding
your understanding of one reality which we all share which we all are
it is from this understanding and as this understanding that love blooms flourishes in our life
we recognize the other as our very self and sometimes we may feel hurt
10:13 we feel hurt because we cherish something
we feel called to protect something
to defend something
against whom? against others against the world
it is something that we feel very valuable we need to defend it to protect it
for what? for whom?
to safeguard that which we cherish whatever that is
we place conditions onto each other we overlook the love
we believe that the love comes from the mind from our thoughts from our opinion from our smartness
we don’t want to get hurt
it’s one thing to feel pain because you put your hand on the hot stove
but what is it that gets hurt what is it to feel hurt
what if I am love itself
14:59 where would the hurt find any refuge in the Heart of Love
we often blame the other for not loving us the right way for not behaving towards us in a loving way
although there are situations where there is blatantly true
aren’t we most often
trying to justify our feelings and shift our feelings so that we experience some release some relief from the inner angst
we all are seeking relief from inner angst
but in moments of wisdom in moments of insight we realize that this relief does not come from the mind does not come from the world
and yet we know this peace we know the love the Tracy[?]
in the depths of our being we know it
we don’t need someone to explain it to us
but as much as we try in a relationship in the mind looking for a way
changing our world situation where we live what we do as much as we try we only experience moments of relief
but not the freedom and the relief and the peace that is unconditional that is always there so to speak
20:04 we all experienced negative feelings when we explored various ways
what we share here is an exploration into the situation which is appearing to us
sometimes it may sound shocking when we hear that there is no such thing as a feeling
it may seem preposterous that this statement is denying my experience how can one say there is no such thing as feelings while I am continuing so it depressed miserable accepting
we want to run away from such a pointer
but take a look
do not take a look conceptually but experiential
experientially
before you accept the statement that I am feeling upset before that formulation
just press the pause button for a moment and take a look at your experience at that moment
my heart beats pressure in the chest
the heat in the face of your throat dry throat clenched fists sweating
those are bodily sensations
25:04 and then you take a look at the thoughts that are appearing to you at that moment of upsetness
it may be possible to notice thoughts such as “why did he do this to me”, “why did she do this to me”
“she keeps doing the same mistakes”, “he keeps doing the same mistakes”, “pisses me off”
“darn I wish I just could be somewhere else this moment”
these are thoughts right thoughts
but if you take a closer look you will find that within these thoughts there is a belief
the belief that I am this person and he or she is this other person
that I am a good guy a good gal
I am fair I am just I am this I am that
you will find a me story a belief that you are somebody
that you which is the reality which right now is hearing these words you this transparent awareness this intelligence this presence is somebody
somebody good somebody bad somebody better with some than the other
and the other is just not getting it
you will find that if you’re interested in looking you will find that belief
yep it takes a moment take a look if it’s true it’s true if you are somebody then you are this somebody but if you are the awareness which perceives thought perception and Sensation
then you are not somebody perceived either this or that you cannot be both be transparent aware presence and a perceived form
you need to figure this out for yourself
also we should take a look at our experience we may notice that sometimes we walk into the room accidentally
maybe there is this group of people in that room that have just I heard some sad news a dear friend of theirs passed away
we walk into this room not knowing this information 30:03
and we feel this heaviness we feel this sadness although we have no idea what is going on we don’t have any news we don’t know the news and we actually feel this sadness this sorrow which is not our sorrow because you don’t even know even know what’s happened
but it is a shared sorrow because we are transparent to each other even at the body level
we sense each other the movement the body language
we feel each other as this heat
and sometimes when we are in company of people who are angry we may feel their anger
although we are not angry yet we feel it
when we are with somebody who’s blaming you although you’re not blaming yourself you’re not actually experiencing yourself as separate
that you feel the blame because we are transparent to each other
sometimes even with animals we can sense in this Silent Way this is why it makes sense to be careful with each other what we share and how we share what we share
we can take a look Within whether we are coming from a sense of separation and feeling identification identifying myself as somebody somebody righteous or not take a look Within
because that’s going to be in the space
it’s gonna be out there affecting everybody
of course you can all play the game of feelings I’m upset like this and I’m upset at that
it’s an easy game to play
please me if you can make me happy or else you’re out of there out of here we can play this game but what fun is there what beauty is there what tenderness what love what understanding is in such a game
Can we be just to be fresh moment moment by moment
not knowing 35:02 not defending or aggressing not identifying
noticing the identification let it go
not buying into it let it go
There’s a lot that you can let go. Much more than you can see.
