We need to meet our shadow as it manifests.
The way out is in. Moving towards the experience, towards the feeling, rather than avoiding and/or blaming.
We need to feel what is on board and to investigate, explore the me-mechanism that is behind the scene which is trying to maintain itself in order to defend the me-illusion.

The understanding that this personal self maintains itself via resistance and seeking is an important understanding which we need to recall over and over.

This way we are invited to relax, to let go and to allow our vulnerability to remain exposed, knowing that it is the correct path and that we are safer when we open rather than close.